Healing Stress & Overwhelm in Working Moms

Have you had the experience when your "too do" list just kept on getting longer and longer, so much so that you felt that you won't be able to get everything on that list done, because it was just.... getting .... so ... long

Soccer practice, house cleaning, laundry duty, pending reports, work targets,  gym workouts, the dry cleaners, make dinner, and ... wait a minute ... is that a huge pile of dog poop on the floor?

Sigh!  It's tough being Super Parent.

The truth is, SuperParent, Super Employee and SuperPerson --the One who succeeds in all aspects of his/her life at all times--is a myth.  She/he doesn't exist.  And trying to be SuperPerson is a guaranteed ticket  to becoming overwhelmed.

So, if SuperPerson (Mr./Ms PKerfection)  doesn't exist, what does?

The GoodPerson  does.  The GoodPerson is a an individual who creates balance in his/her life.  The GoodPerson knows that, to relax and have piece of mind, she/he needs to change her own perspective, rather than change the world. 

One of the ways you, as a GoodPerson, can create balance in your life, is to look at the "shoulds" in your life.

     * Why should I take charge of the Scouting trip?

     * Why  should I exercise more?

     * Why should  I fix a meal for the kids, and then another for the hubby, every night?

     * Why  should I do everyone's laundry every week?

     * Why should I be responsible for  the household chores?

     * Why should my work reports be perfect?



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The thing with "should" tasks is that these can breed  guilt (if you don't do them) as well as resentment and anger that you must do them.  "Should" tasks drain energy and exhaust you, particularly if you skip hours of sleep.  (One client I had actually fell asleep at his desk at work because he was totally exhausted.) 

Albert Ellis once said: "The dirtiest word in the English language is should."


Now that you know what "shoulds" are, let's get to work on how you can handle these.

For one week, become aware of how often, in your quiet conversations with yourself, you use the world "should" or its allies: "must" and "have to."  I suggest putting a rubber band around your wrist while you're doing so, so that, whenever you say one of these words, you snap it to make yourself aware of this habit.

Then for the next week, substitute the word "choose" for those " dirty words" and as you use the word "choose" really choose if you will do those tasks or if you can let some of these go.

This is a  start, and perhaps this is good enough for you to work on, to become a GoodPerson.  But what if your honest-to-goodness can't get a handle on everything, or you feel you need some support and guidance?

That's what I'm here for.  I was a single working Mom: I know what you're up against, and the nice thing is, I have found the tools  I and any other working parents out there -- such as yourself-- needs to get a handle on things.

Because you've gone this far, I know you're interested.  So, get in touch with me, so you can bring balance and not overwhelm, into your life. 




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