One of the ways you, as a GoodMom, can create balance in your life, is to look at the "shoulds" in your life.
* Why should I take charge of the bake sale for the Scouts?
* Why should I exercise more?
* Why should I fix a meal for the kids, and then another for the hubby, every night?
* Why should I do everyone's laundry every week?
* Why should I be responsible for just about all of the household chores?
* Why should my work report be perfect?
The thing with "should" tasks is that these can breed guilt (if you don't do them) as well as resentment and anger that you must do them. "Should" tasks drain energy and exhaust you, particularly if you skip hours of sleep. (One client I had actually fell asleep at her desk at work because she was totally exhausted.)
Albert Ellis once said: "The dirtiese word in the English language is should."
Now that you know what "shoulds" are, let's get to work on how you can handle these.
For one week, become aware of how often, in your quiet conversations with yourself, you use the world "should" or its allies: "must" and "have to." I suggest putting a rubber band around your wrist while you're doing so, so that, whenever you say one of these words, you snap it to make yourself aware of this habit.
Then for the next week, substitute the word "choose" for those " dirty words" and as you use the word "choose" really choose if you will do those tasks or if you can let some of these go.
This is a start, and perhaps this is good enough for you to work on, to become a GoodMom. But what if your honest-to-goodness can't get a handle on everything, or you feel you need some support and guidance?
That's what I'm here for. As a single working Mom, I know what you're up against, and the nice thing is, I have found the tools I and any other working Mom out there -- such as yourself-- needs to get a handle on things.
Because you've gone this far, I know you're interested. So, get in touch with me, so you can bring balance and not overwhelm, into your life.